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Part 6. The Genesis of my CPTSD: Mother as Mirror

Photo by Allef Vinicius on Unsplash Mother as Mirror From Jasmin Lee Cori: A mother's role in providing reflection is one of her most important. It is how children feel known and come to know themselves. Mirroring happens both verbally and nonverbally, and there are several levels to it. The first is one where children… Continue reading Part 6. The Genesis of my CPTSD: Mother as Mirror

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Part 5. The Genesis of my CPTSD: Mother as Nurturer

Photo by Valeria Zoncoll on Unsplash Mother As Nurturer From The Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cori [affiliate link]: Since a child's first language is touch, much will be communicated by the mother's holding and handling of the infant as well as by the way she continues to touch her growing child. Does the… Continue reading Part 5. The Genesis of my CPTSD: Mother as Nurturer

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Part 4. The Genesis of my CPTSD: Mother as Modulator

Photo by Janko Ferlič on Unsplash Mother as Modulator goes hand in hand with the First Responder role, this time, teaching the child emotional regulation that in time becomes self-regulation. From Jasmin Lee Cori: When Mother is modulator, she helps us transition from negative emotional experiences to positive ones. One way she does this is… Continue reading Part 4. The Genesis of my CPTSD: Mother as Modulator

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Part 2. The Genesis of My C-PTSD – Mother as Place of Attachment

Photo by Emma Frances Logan on Unsplash I realized that stating "The Genesis of CPTSD" in the title for this series was open to misinterpretation. This is very much about how mine started and so I made that adjustment. Your mileage may vary. Mother as Place of Attachment From The Emotionally Absent Mother (affiliate link):… Continue reading Part 2. The Genesis of My C-PTSD – Mother as Place of Attachment

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Part 1. The Genesis of My C-PTSD – Mother as Source: The Hostile Womb

Photo by Camila Cordeiro on Unsplash In her book, The Emotionally Absent Mother, Jasmin Lee Cori cites ten faces of a good mother, which I'm considering as I finish writing my trauma memoir. Her list of ten are Source, Place of Attachment, First Responder, Modulator, Nurturer, Mirror, Cheerleader, Mentor, Protector, and Home Base.  Unfortunately, my… Continue reading Part 1. The Genesis of My C-PTSD – Mother as Source: The Hostile Womb

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Breaking Generational Cycles: Forgiveness

Photo by Roman Kraft on Unsplash white tulips are symbolic of forgiveness, purity, and serenity Emotions tend to run high around the idea of forgiveness when it comes to child abuse and especially child sexual abuse (CSA). Understandably so. I am not advocating that you forgive your abuser(s), especially if you are in the early stages of coming to… Continue reading Breaking Generational Cycles: Forgiveness

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What trauma does to you: Muscle Armoring

Photo by Samuel Zeller on Unsplash We're always tense, always on guard, those of us with CPTSD. Braced. Tight. Clenched. Muscle armoring goes along with hypervigilance. The body is perpetually preparing for flight, preparing to fight, or stuck in freeze. There's often pain when the muscles are constantly tensed and overworked. There can also be body imbalances, fibromyalgia,… Continue reading What trauma does to you: Muscle Armoring

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What is self-love?

Photo by Steve Halama on Unsplash Here are 22 components of self-love that was published anonymously in the UK a few years ago. I edited some of the definitions because I don't believe it's about worshipping yourself, but rather breaking old trauma patterns and silencing old voices in order to learn how to value your unique self and… Continue reading What is self-love?