Tips for breaking generational cycles, Part One

These suggestions are from the perspective of stopping the cycle with the next generation in mind. If you do not have children, these remain useful for your own well-being and those around you. 

  • Acknowledge that an unhealthy generational cycle exists. Whoa! You’ve already broken denial!! Celebrate that!
  • Identify the cycle and pay attention that there may be other cycles that reveal themselves as you go through this. An experienced trauma therapist is invaluable during this process.
  • Decide that you want to change that pattern(s). Take on one pattern at a time to avoid overwhelm.
  • Learn what healthy boundaries are and teach them to your children. There are lots of resources in libraries and online. Keep your own boundaries up – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual – you’re going to need them.                       
  • Know that some family members are not going to like the change and be prepared for that.